Most of us think of a leader as someone with a great deal of experience and training in a particular area. While knowledge and experience are important qualities, one’s ability to communicate and work well with others is just as crucial to being an effective leader.

It can be the difference between being “bossome” (an awesome boss) and a “bosshole” (boss + asshole).

Having a high degree of emotional intelligence (E.Q.) allows you to be able to inspire and motivate others to partner with you to accomplish a shared objective and vision.  There are several ways that you can strengthen your interpersonal skills.

Try these methods to increase your E.Q. and accomplish more together: 

1.Increase your self-awareness. Self-development is the foundation of excellence and great leadership. Before you can lead and inspire others, you must first understand your own motivations and behavior.

  • Develop your vision by learning to listen to your inner values and dreams. Trust yourself. Try not to compromise or settle on your values to achieve a goal or for other short-term gains.
  • Embrace passion by learning to be motivated by your internal compass rather than external forces and situations.
  • Keep your energy fully recharged so that you can give your best effort. You can stay energized by taking the time to learn what activities re-energize you and which ones drain your energy.
  • Respect yourself. Know the limitations of your body, mind, and spirit and strive for a balance between your responsibilities in all areas of your life.
  • Become aware of your flaws and limitations. Seek ways to improve yourself and be open to change. No one is perfect and good at everything. Own your flawsome (flaws + awesome).

2. Strengthen your development and self-management. Learning to be responsible for your behavior, attitudes, and actions can raise your performance level and help you build trust, authority, and respect with others.  

  • Seek the input of others. Ask how you can help them or what you need to do differently to communicate more effectively and lead them better.
  • Hold yourself accountable for your actions, behaviors, and performance.
  • Don’t be afraid to delegate responsibilities and tasks. Be confident enough in yourself to surround yourself with talented, qualified, and even people smarter or more experienced than you.

3. Develop your social awareness. Be aware of your own attitudes, beliefs, and the power you have to inspire and motivate others.

  • Show genuine care and concern for others and learn how to actively listen. Doing so will create lasting relationships and build a strong team that will work with you rather than against you.
  • Give others a reason to support you and your vision. Let others know when they have done a good job and look for ways to openly recognize and reward excellence and do it often.
  • Help others to buy into your vision by making them stakeholders in the realization of your goals. Seek their advice when setting goals and in planning on how you’ll achieve them.
  • Help others to increase their abilities and fully utilize their talents by providing them opportunities for training, projects, professional and personal development.

4. Emphasize greater people management. Learn how to bring out the best in yourself and others. Utilize everyone’s best qualities and minimize their limitations with an effective assignment of tasks and delegation of responsibilities.

Regardless of your education or experience, you can achieve greater success by learning how to use your people skills to fully utilize others’ talents and energy. These strategies will allow you to increase your E.Q and inspire others to believe and enlist in your cause. Not because they have to because you’re the boss but because they want to.

Lead on you “bossome” leader you!

Rebecca Morgan, PhD, is an award-winning former Disney leader and founder of The Awesome Leader League (T.A.L.L.), the ultimate collection of leadership skills, strategies, tools, and resources to lead the team everyone wants to be on while skyrocketing your career. Without EVER being a soul-sucking “boss-hole.” Join us here.